We all (at one time or another/ or still do) have friends that suck the life out of us!
I've been 'friends' with one such person for about 30 years! I. KNOW.
I can't do it anymore.
What. Am I a slow learner?
I don't think so.
I always look for the best in everyone.
I have some really good 'friends' I see a few times a year, and it's like we talk all the time!
We just pick up where we left off.
I LOVE those friends.
I've had a headache (migraine) 3 out of the past 5 mornings.
Oh yeah, I've got drugs, ones I don't like to take, cause I can be stoned and still have a headache!
I can't tip toe around this 'friend' anymore.
I can't listen to her problems, which are always the same.
I can't fret about getting together with her, never knowing what mood she'll be in.
I can't stress over making her a card, worrying she'll take any sentiment I put in it or on it, the wrong way.
I can't offer solutions and suggestions anymore.
I've done it for about the last 10 years....or more. Really.
I've decided she doesn't want a solution, she just wants to be miserable.
I'm trying to come to grips with that.
Are some people just happy being miserable?
My mom said: "You've been friends a long time, you must have been at the end of your rope."
I guess I was.
Pretty sure it's the end of that 'friendship'.
I said some stuff......no, I don't think I'd take anything back.
I said I wouldn't want to hear about it anymore.
Like I tell the kids: "Everything's good in my little world, til somebody screws it up!"
I've dealt with depression, and I don't like feeling like this.....
Like the headaches, it makes me tired.
Anyhoo, I read some good stuff on the internet.....well, I don't know how good it is......
Pretty sure I've tried it all.
It makes for interesting reading anyway!
http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-7212/energy-vampires-who-they-are-how-to-ditch-them.html
http://www.life-with-confidence.com/how-to-deal-with-negative-people.html
And a humorous look at friends.....
http://www.angelfire.com/ri/luckyman/types_of_friends.htm
I'll try to lighten up, just had to get that off my chest!
And yeah, she reads the blog...........................................
March 1st/ oh wow!
There's some new challenges I'll be trying to come up with something for!
I put one up with blogaversary candy over there on the sidebar!
Brenda makes gorgeous cards!
It's tropical here today!
Sun is shining, birds are singing, and it's light out for about 10 hours in the day!
Gotta love that!
I've got a UFO on my desk that I just can't get right!
And yeah, some of it is GLUED down!
I got some new stamps today; Bugaboo, from Stampalicious!
They make me smile!
I sent Kalens congratulations card.
He got promoted to Leading Seaman.
It was a ceremony, and he also got whatever he was getting for being picked as the Sailor of the Quarter in December!
Note to self, use a darker ink on these!
He's sailing now.......for months.
Maybe I'll be able to talk to him this weekend!
I also made this birthday card.
Sorry for such crappy light for both!
Hope this finds you well!
Have a great weekend everyone!
Talk to ya later!
Ta ta for now!
Oh... my girlfriend Gail!!! I am feeling for you!! Its bad enough having migraines but to have a friendship come to a head on top is major stress!
ReplyDeleteAt times I am glad the world is made up of so many different people and then at times I wish it wasnt. For the most part.. everything is okay.
I know something is terribly wrong because I have never come away from your blog without having a good laugh! I consider you and Myrna my wonderful net friends. I am always in awe of your generousity, ability to find the sunshine in the rain, your talents in everything from crafts, cooking, love of friends and family to those incredibly fantastic meals and treats you make for your friends. You work hard and play hard. You make the world a better place. You have made a difference!
We are at the time in our life where we have to rid oursleves of what brings us down. It can hurt but must be done. Point blank.
I have been in the same situation and have made the same decision. Guess what... it took a while but I evenually felt so fantastic abut my decision. Now I smile and laugh again. Prior to tonight I could hear you laughing in every typed word. I need to come back and get my fix!
I do hope you get some rest this weekend and mend. My heart goes out to you!
Love ya!!
Sheree
p.s. Love your card and you must be so proud of your little boy!!
ReplyDeleteHi Gail, wow, are you already preparing for next Christmas. Your snowman card is just so fantastic. Love it with the snowflake details.
ReplyDeleteThank you also very much for all your lovely comments on my blog. I wish you a wonderful weeken.
Hugs Claudia
Life is way too short to waste on people who, at the end of the day, really don't appreciate or deserve our friendship. Cut the ties Gail and focus on your friends who love and appreciate you. You have so much to offer ... Let those in that love you back.
ReplyDeleteCongrats to Kalen on his promotion ... I can see your peacock feathers from here! Very nice card you made for him too.
hi gail, sorry to hear about your migraines. wow, for a minute i thought you were writing about my 'friend' that i distanced myself from for all the same reasons. who needs extra stress??!! and yes, i think some people enjoy being miserable; they get more sympathy when they're a victim. that's my two cents anyway. wait, no more pennies - k, how about my loonie's worth?
ReplyDeletelinda
Hey there! I know exactly what you went through and I'm writing you a separate email about it. I'm so proud of Kalen and I know you are too. God love him! I know you miss him terribly. He takes after his Mom. . .he is amazing too. On to read your other posts. . .Hugs, Curt
ReplyDeleteIt's hard letting go of people we care about, even if they are toxic for our lives. You will probably even find yourself missing her. You just have to do what's best for you. Perhaps this could be a "lightbulb" moment for her??? Hugs!
ReplyDeleteGail
ReplyDeleteI was away when I read your blog and I cried for you. Tried to comment but just couldn't get anything to work.
Kalens card is great and I love the snowman/snowflake card.
A negative person is very hard on a person mentally and it does take its physical toll as your headaches proved.
As for venting, those of us who are your true friends understand and will be there for you.
Myrna